How to Talk to a Referee (As a Player)

Communication with the referee is a key part of the game — but it’s often misunderstood.

In this video, Ben O’Keeffe explains how players can communicate clearly, respectfully, and effectively to build trust and influence outcomes in a positive way. You’ll learn what referees are looking for, how to ask the right questions, and how to avoid the common mistakes that lead to frustration or penalties.

This session covers:

  • When and how to speak to the referee

  • What language works — and what doesn’t

  • How to build rapport and trust during a game

  • How communication can impact decisions

Designed for players and leaders at all levels, this gives you a simple, practical approach to getting the best out of your interactions with the referee.

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